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ustralian study follows group of women for 10 years and discovers that post -menopausal women dramatically lose sexual function.” “Harvard study shows that 40 percent of women report sexual problems.” “U.S. National Health and Social Life Survey, shows that 43% of women suffer from sexual dysfunction.” “UK study reinforces finding that 4 in 10 women are affected by sexual problems.”  Yada, yada, yada.

It’s depressing isn’t it? Women of a certain age are so used to being told they should expect their libido to fail, that they approach menopause fully expecting to swap their G strings for fleecy dressing gowns. Nearly 80% of women attending sex therapy clinics suffer from low sexual desire, a condition with symptoms that include: “loss of sexual spark”; little desire to initiate sex (although if stimulated sufficiently can still achieve orgasm); aversion to sexual overtures; pain on intercourse; emotional upset; inability to respond to stimulation or maintain lubrication.” The causes? Extreme tiredness, stress, depression, (apparently 6% of women with sexual difficulties are depressed), use of antidepressants (bit of a catch 22 that one) and general unhappiness in relationship.

Female sexual arousal disorder is, technically, a different condition, although the outcome is just as sexless. It may be related to ailments which affect blood flow – for example, a 1987 study showed that 78% of women being treated for raised blood pressure had difficulty in becoming sexually aroused – but it could also occur as a result of heart disease, diabetes, thyroid problems, surgery; multiple sclerosis; obesity; taking antihistamines; anti-hypertensives;  anti-psychotics; anti-oestrogens; central nervous system stimulants; narcotics, and the list goes on and on.

It’s a well known fact that expectation influences outcome. Actually it’s a scientifically proven theory. In 1963 Harvard psychologist Robert Rosenthal and Lenore Jacobson, principal of an elementary school in San Francisco, collaborated on a study which demonstrated that if  teachers are led to expect enhanced performance from some children, then the children do indeed perform better. Known as the Pygmalian effect, the theory could just as easily be applied to assumptions about female sexual function in later life. Older women who are primed to believe that their libidos will fail them may simply be living up to expectations when they throw in the towel.

Arousal and orgasm are a response mechanism and like any other part of the body, the more those responses are exercised, the better and stronger they will be, so every woman over the age of 45 should be in possession of a good vibrator. The Rabbit is the worlds best selling model for a reason, but battery operated toys tend to be less powerful than plug in devices. The older a woman is the more stimulation she needs so look for models that can provide up to 6000 rpm. Women who are menopausal need to boost their immune systems with magnesium, zinc, evening primrose oil and wild yam supplements and they should also try to cook with plenty of ginger and chilli and increase soya intake to boost the phyto-oestrogens in their diet. Lots of exercise is crucial for strength and stamina as is swapping the fleecy dressing gown for a Lace & Freshwater Pearl G-String (£63.00) .

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