How well do you know your partner? Take this simple quiz and find out…

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This simple quiz was devised by the legendary relationship guru Dr. John Gottmann. He believes that one of the most important features of successful couple relationships is how well partners know each other’s inner world. Extensive research at his Love Labs has shown that the best predictor of passion and romance in a relationship is the quality of the friendship. Although the questions seem terribly obvious, just answering them forces you to think about how intimately connected you are to your partner. It is reassuring to realise that you can answer yes to most of them, and if you can’t, you might want to work out why…

I can name my partner’s best friends
A: Yes B: No

I know what stresses my partner is currently facing
A: Yes B: No

I know the names of some of the people who have been irritating my partner lately
A: Yes B: No

I can tell you some of my partner’s life dreams
A: Yes B: No

I can tell you about my partner’s basic philosophy of life
A: Yes B: No

I can list the relatives my partner likes the least
A: Yes B: No

I feel that my partner knows me pretty well
A: Yes B: No

When we are apart, I often think fondly of my partner
A: Yes B: No

I often touch or kiss my partner affectionately
A: Yes B: No

My partner really respects me
A: Yes B: No

There is fire and passion in this relationship
A: Yes B: No

Romance is definitely still part of our relationship
A: Yes B: No

My partner appreciates the things I do in this relationship
A: Yes B: No

My partner generally likes my personality
A: Yes B: No

Our sex life is mostly satisfying
A: Yes B: No

At the end of the day my partner is glad to see me
A: Yes B: No

My partner is one of my best friends
A: Yes B: No

We just love talking to each other
A: Yes B: No

There is lots of give and take (we both have influence) in our discussions
A: Yes B: No

20. My partner listens respectfully, even when we disagree
A: Yes B: No

My partner is usually a great help as a problem-solver
A: Yes B: No

We generally mesh well on basic values and goals in life
A: Yes B: No

Your score

15 or more yes answers
You have a lot of strength in your relationship. Congratulations!

8 to 14
This is a pivotal time in your relationship. There are many strengths you can build upon, but there are also some weaknesses that need your attention.

7 or fewer
Your relationship may be in serious trouble. If this concerns you, you probably still value the relationship enough to try to get help.

© 2000-2007 Dr John M. Gottman. For further information visit gottman.com

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