Nicole Daedone’s Slow Sex Movement promotes Orgasmic Meditation (OM), a partnered practice focused on the female orgasm. In OM, the male (or female) puts their attention on the female’s genitals, stroking with their index finger lightly for fifteen minutes, while the female receives the stroke.
In the practice of OM, both partners agree to hold the singular goal of feeling any physical sensation that arises, as opposed to aiming or reaching for a specific outcome – such as climax. In this way, the practice induces a more feminine, orgasmic experience. This is what differentiates it from the masculine, climax-oriented model or orgasm.
OM is a practice in which one partner gently strokes the other partner’s clitoris for 15 minutes. It’s deliberate and structured with repeatable results. It’s a meditation, equally powerful for both partners – only the object of focus is the clitoris.
The clitoris has the highest concentration of nerve endings in the body. The tiny glans has about twice as many nerve endings as the head of a man’s cock.
The index finger provides the greatest muscle control and is designed to exquisitely detect pressure and texture.
A skilled practitioner, making minute adjustments on the same scale as the width of a sheet of paper, can get to know the subtleties and nuances of his partner’s clit and how it responds in great detail. The clitoris is a broadband connection directly to the brain, and the finger-on-clit combination is optimal for igniting orgasm.
Practitioners experience benefits similar to other mindfulness practices such as sitting meditation, as well as the well-known health benefits associated with orgasm.
It’s profound, yet simple and you can have it whether you are single or coupled.
Climax can be thought of as what most men’s bodies typically do at the end of sex. There’s a sudden spike in sensation; a “point of no return”; an involuntary; out-of-control feeling… followed by ejaculation, contractions, a general feeling of done-ness, loss of erection, loss of interest, etc.
Many women experience something similar — some readily, some under certain conditions. But a much greater percentage of women experience the major components of orgasm — the same (or greater) intensity of sensation; contractions; activation of the involuntary musculature; etc. — but without the spiky, sneeze-like quality of climax, or the feeling of abruptly passing through a one-way exit door. This kind of orgasm can continue for long periods, come and go in waves, etc. The endpoint isn’t marked by climax but by feeling totally gratified.
Based on our experience, all women are capable of experiencing orgasm, from the first stroke to the last.
Orgasmic Meditation, or “Oming” as it is also known, is a “slow sex movement” described by long-time practitioner and founder of a well-notated orgasmic meditation centers, OneTaste, Nicole Daedone.
The main purpose of slow sex isn’t just about the physical act of sex, but also the emotional and spiritual. Many practitioners describe the act as, “a heady buzz, mixed with equal parts wooziness and intensity of focus.”
The goal for Oming is not to achieve an orgasm, but for both participants to share a deeply profound experience.
OneTaste has over 10 locations worldwide, their first location was esatblished in San Francisco, CA. Oming classes can either be in a group setting, private classes, and coaching classes, The next convention is this weekend at The Orgasmic Meditation Experience in San Francisco from August 9 to 11th.