“Spending time together isn’t enough.” The legendary Arthur Aron on how to make love last forever.

“Spending time together isn’t enough.” The legendary Arthur Aron on how to make love last forever.

Apr 9, 2014 | No Comments

Psychologist Arthur Aron specialises in the study of Romantic Love, so it seems only right that he should be on our front page in time for Valentine’s Day. Aron directs the Interpersonal Relationships Laboratory at the State University of New York at […]

Men with a positive attitude and good health have happier marriages

Men with a positive attitude and good health have happier marriages

Apr 3, 2014 | No Comments

A husband’s agreeable personality and good health appear crucial to preventing conflict among older couples who have been together a long time, according to a study from University of Chicago researchers. The report found that such characteristics in wives play less of […]

The ‘what if’ will always be more appealing than the ‘what is’. .. Lori Gottleib on peer marriages.

The ‘what if’ will always be more appealing than the ‘what is’. .. Lori Gottleib on peer marriages.

Feb 17, 2014 | No Comments

  We live in a culture where sex is everywhere. It’s no longer a hush-hush topic, and it pervades the media. But when it comes to sex in our marriages, a lot of people feel alone in their experiences even though their […]

Brace yourselves for the annual onslaught of heart-shaped commercial tat. Valentines is unarguably irritating, exploitative and exclusory… but I’m still holding out for a card !

Brace yourselves for the annual onslaught of heart-shaped commercial tat. Valentines is unarguably irritating, exploitative and exclusory… but I’m still holding out for a card !

Feb 6, 2014 | No Comments

Ever since I was a kid at an all girl’s convent boarding school, I’ve hated Valentines day. The anticipation leading up to it was relentless and in those first weeks of February, we prayed, not for the starving black babies in Africa, […]

Final results of the Open University ‘Enduring Love’ study reveal that you can spend half a million quid confirming what we already know.

Final results of the Open University ‘Enduring Love’ study reveal that you can spend half a million quid confirming what we already know.

Jan 30, 2014 | No Comments

When I first heard about the Enduring Love study I was really excited about it, so I took the train out to Milton Keynes to meet the people behind it. They were really nice and we had tea and biscuits – nice […]

“How to fall in love.” A 24 Stage Guide written by two eight year olds… on a kleenex

“How to fall in love.” A 24 Stage Guide written by two eight year olds… on a kleenex

Jan 15, 2014 | No Comments

Matthew J.X. Malady has, what is possibly the coolest job in journalism. He spends his day trawling the internet for weird and wonderful posts and then he gets in touch with the authors and interviews them for his Tell Us More column for […]

Four middle aged men required…

Four middle aged men required…

Dec 11, 2013 | 2 Comments

  I would like to interview four middle aged men about their experience of marriage and having children. I need men in their first marriage who have been married for about ten years or more. If you fit the bill and would […]

Men and women would rather settle for an unhappy relationship than face being alone.

Men and women would rather settle for an unhappy relationship than face being alone.

Dec 6, 2013 | One Comment

  Fear of being single is a meaningful predictor of settling for less in relationships among both men and women, a new University of Toronto (U of T) study has found. The results are published in the December edition of the Journal […]

Monogamy and Monotony

Monogamy and Monotony

Oct 28, 2013 | No Comments

I’m hoping that this website will provide a great deal of information on this topic but last year,  journalist Tim Scott wrote about this issue rather movingly in The Times. After the birth of their first child he and his wife had […]

Some thoughts on the collected essays contained in “Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships; A Clinician’s Guide” Edited by Jon Carlson and Len Sperry

Some thoughts on the collected essays contained in “Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships; A Clinician’s Guide” Edited by Jon Carlson and Len Sperry

Oct 28, 2013 | No Comments

In the past, loss of intimacy in a long-term relationship was often equated with infidelity, but more recently, therapists have acknowledged that it is often a result of “benign neglect”. Couples are so focussed on their jobs, their finances or their kids […]