Dr. Benjamin Le writes: One of my main research areas is the role of commitment in predicting the “success” of dating relationships (using the term loosely; i.e., staying together vs. breaking-up).1 However, there are certainly other factors that predict relationship success, […]
Most couples would acknowledge that there is a difference between a one night stand and an affair. The former may well be a stupid mistake, but long term infidelity involves committed and constant lying. Some researchers say there’s a 50–50 chance today […]
Perpetual Issues: 69% of disagreements will never be fully resolved so couples need to argue in more effective ways.
Many couples go around and around the same arguments for years without either one ever feeling that they have been listened to. Because the problem is never resolved, every time their relationship hits a speed bump they find themselves rowing about the […]
With the shenanigans at the News Of The World dominating the dailies, one can’t help wondering if, or when, people who are having an affair should confess their infidelity to the people they are actually married to. Here’s my top ten tips […]
Most research into how to manage conflict in long-term relationships focuses on eliminating problems, but research suggests that dullness and feelings of boredom may be a much more significant cause of marital dissatisfaction than previously thought. A long term study, which was […]
Alcohol: figures from the The British Crime Survey indicate that 32% of incidents of intimate partner violence are committed when the perpetrator is under the influence of alcohol.
While alcohol helps to boost confidence and decrease inhibitions, the sexual trade off is that it also diminishes the ability to say no, the ability to get it up (Brewers droop), to locate a condom, to get a condom on and should […]
Laura Munson had the perfect life. Or at least she thought she had. She was happily married and lived with her husband and two kids aged 12 and 8 in a farmhouse set in 20 acres of land in Montana. They had […]
Some thoughts on the collected essays contained in “Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships; A Clinician’s Guide” Edited by Jon Carlson and Len Sperry
In her essay (Chapter 14), Professor Maureen Duffy examines the interesting metaphor that is the ‘work-life balance’. She says, with a degree of irony, that the “life” part of the metaphor suggests that “outside of employment, there is something other than work”… […]
When the rose tinted glasses come off, as they do eventually in all romantic relationships, we invariably find ourselves embroiled in stupid arguments about who’s turn it is to un-stack the dishwasher, or whether cream is a practical colour for a stair […]
Conflict levels don’t change much over the course of a marriage. Is that good news or bad news? In fact, is it even news at all?
A new study which followed nearly 1,000 couples over 20 years, from 1980 to 2000 has established that the level of conflict in a relationship does not change much over time. The study which was lead by Claire Kamp Dush, assistant professor […]