Conflict levels don’t change much over the course of a marriage. Is that good news or bad news? In fact, is it even news at all?

Conflict levels don’t change much over the course of a marriage. Is that good news or bad news? In fact, is it even news at all?

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A new study which followed nearly 1,000 couples over 20 years, from 1980 to 2000 has established that the level of conflict in a relationship does not change much over time. The study which was lead by Claire Kamp Dush, assistant professor […]

What happens when you go to couple therapy? Susanna Abse, couple psychoanalytic psychotherapist at The Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships invites us in to this very private world…

What happens when you go to couple therapy? Susanna Abse, couple psychoanalytic psychotherapist at The Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships invites us in to this very private world…

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Oliver and Naomi go to couple therapy Oliver and Naomi have been married for 22 years.  They met when they were both 20, whilst they were studying at medical school.  Neither of them had been in a relationship before and whilst Naomi […]

‘You Just Don’t Understand’ Linguist Deborah Tannen explores the differences between women and men in Conversation

‘You Just Don’t Understand’ Linguist Deborah Tannen explores the differences between women and men in Conversation

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Deborah Tannen is Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships.  She is best known as the author of the international bestseller ‘You Just Don’t Understand: Women and […]

Forget the Downton Abbey box set…. all you need for Christmas is The Art & Science of Love DVD workshop

Forget the Downton Abbey box set…. all you need for Christmas is The Art & Science of Love DVD workshop

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Divorce lawyers are expecting a 25% increase in New Year trade according to a new survey by Inside divorce. The first week of January has always been a busy time for shrinks, pharmacists and the law. The friction created by pre Christmas […]

I believe in a thing called love…

I believe in a thing called love…

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In the Sunday Times this weekend Pamela Haag explains the premise of her new book “Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules”  (Harper Collins).  Haag identifies the “low-conflict” or […]

Marriage: Senior High Court Judge says “Mend it, don’t end it”.

Marriage: Senior High Court Judge says “Mend it, don’t end it”.

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In 1956 The Royal Commission in England identified that the “single most important factor in marital breakdown is the idealization of the individual pursuit of self-gratification and personal pleasure at the expense of reciprocal obligations and duties towards spouses, children and society […]

Marital therapy does not have a distinguished record when it comes to helping couples solve sexual problems.

Marital therapy does not have a distinguished record when it comes to helping couples solve sexual problems.

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In the introduction to his new book ‘Make Love like a Prairie Vole”(Bloomsbury), marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall confesses that “marital therapy- does not have a distinguished record” when it comes to helping couples with sexual difficulties. He points out that “Counsellors […]

Economic power, autonomy and sexual fulfillment? Women can have it all (almost) says Pulitzer prize winning journalist Liza Mundy

Economic power, autonomy and sexual fulfillment? Women can have it all (almost) says Pulitzer prize winning journalist Liza Mundy

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Why is it so hard to accept the idea that women are sexually advantaged by having education and earnings? We know that high-earning women are empowered in terms of financial decision-making, household purchases, and getting domestic help from husbands — why not […]

A revealing and intimate conversation about the difficulties experienced by a man who hid his fetish for infantilism from his wife and is now trying to deal with the consequences.

A revealing and intimate conversation about the difficulties experienced by a man who hid his fetish for infantilism from his wife and is now trying to deal with the consequences.

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  His first letter I have really appreciated your responses and advice to people but having read your articles for some years and your recent book, “Sex Counsel”, I cant help but think that you are very negative and dismissive towards married […]

Why Relationship Advice Fails (And What to Do When It Does)

Why Relationship Advice Fails (And What to Do When It Does)

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  The other day I was browsing through Barnes & Noble, and as I passed by the rows of books about love and sex I felt annoyed. Seeing those volumes brought to mind the biggest open secret in today’s culture: Most relationship […]