“Spending time together isn’t enough.” The legendary Arthur Aron on how to make love last forever.

“Spending time together isn’t enough.” The legendary Arthur Aron on how to make love last forever.

Apr 9, 2014 | No Comments

Psychologist Arthur Aron specialises in the study of Romantic Love, so it seems only right that he should be on our front page in time for Valentine’s Day. Aron directs the Interpersonal Relationships Laboratory at the State University of New York at […]

What happens when a marriage counsellor has marriage problems?

What happens when a marriage counsellor has marriage problems?

Mar 20, 2014 | No Comments

Jed Diamond Ph.D., L.C.S.W writes: I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want a joyful, intimate, loving, relationship that lasts forever.  But we sure seem to have a difficult time making relationships work. According to relationship expert John Gottman, the divorce rate is […]

Study shows that marital dullness predicts marital dissatisfaction. Now there’s a surprise.

Study shows that marital dullness predicts marital dissatisfaction. Now there’s a surprise.

Feb 4, 2014 | No Comments

Most research into how to manage conflict in long-term relationships focuses on eliminating problems, but research suggests that dullness and feelings of boredom may be a much more significant cause of marital dissatisfaction than previously thought. A long term study, which was […]

Gender differences in sex drive? Nothing is accidental.

Gender differences in sex drive? Nothing is accidental.

Jan 21, 2014 | 5 Comments

In 2001, the psychologists Roy F. Baumeister, Kathleen R. Catanese, and Kathleen D. Vohs carried out a meta-analysis of 150 different studies which asked: Is There a Gender Difference in Strength of Sex Drive? Intuitively, everyone already knew the answer to that […]

Money worries and the distractions of social media mean people are having sex less frequently…

Money worries and the distractions of social media mean people are having sex less frequently…

Nov 27, 2013 | No Comments

Money worries and the distractions of social media mean people are having sex less frequently, researchers say. A once-a-decade poll of 15,000 Britons found those aged 16-44 were having sex fewer than five times a month. The figure compared with more than […]

The secret to sustaining sexual desire in a long-term relationship is… wanting to?

The secret to sustaining sexual desire in a long-term relationship is… wanting to?

Nov 12, 2013 | No Comments

  Research from the University of Toronto, published in the May 2013 issue of Social Psychological And Personality Science, found that the secret to sustaining sexual desire in a long-term relationship is pretty simple — people keep on having sex when they […]

Monogamy and Monotony

Monogamy and Monotony

Oct 28, 2013 | No Comments

I’m hoping that this website will provide a great deal of information on this topic but last year,  journalist Tim Scott wrote about this issue rather movingly in The Times. After the birth of their first child he and his wife had […]

Some thoughts on the collected essays contained in “Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships; A Clinician’s Guide” Edited by Jon Carlson and Len Sperry

Some thoughts on the collected essays contained in “Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships; A Clinician’s Guide” Edited by Jon Carlson and Len Sperry

Oct 28, 2013 | No Comments

In the past, loss of intimacy in a long-term relationship was often equated with infidelity, but more recently, therapists have acknowledged that it is often a result of “benign neglect”. Couples are so focussed on their jobs, their finances or their kids […]

Professor Robert Winston on IVF, exploitation and orgasm

Professor Robert Winston on IVF, exploitation and orgasm

Oct 28, 2013 | No Comments

Professor Robert Winston, IVF pioneer, scientist, television presenter, author, peer and politician needs no introduction. His twinkly eyes and bushy moustache are currently starring in ‘Jamie’s Dream school’ where he has caused a stir by getting a bunch of GCSE free kids to […]

The competing demands of modern life tie us all up in knots, but ironically, the one activity that could help us all unwind is generally the first casualty of our stressful lives.

The competing demands of modern life tie us all up in knots, but ironically, the one activity that could help us all unwind is generally the first casualty of our stressful lives.

Oct 28, 2013 | No Comments

Forget lying back and thinking of England. These days most of us are lying back and thinking of ways to pay for the weekly supermarket shop now that all our credit cards are maxed out. The competing demands of modern life tie […]